How to help someone you love get better
The Executive Rehab Guide has been helping thousands of people improve their health and wellbeing for years.
We understand better than anyone else what it feels like to be alone, and that’s why we’re here to help you.
Dedicated to making a difference, we understand that drinking and drugs problems often happen when people are depressed or experiencing high levels of anxiety.
“I have no hesitation in recommending this treatment centre.” Mrs Laing
We’re unlike any other wellness resort because we focus on these issues that drive people to drink or use in the first place.
Our expert therapists use advanced therapy techniques to teach coping mechanisms to our visitors so that they can depend on these methods to help them reintegrate into everyday life.
We provide support for people who feel like all hope is lost. Give us a call on 0808 256 6163 to find out what you need to do next.
For further support, scroll down for our professional advice on what to do at home.
1. Stop taking it personally
How many times have you heard that your loved one will never drink again? Only to be met a short time later for them to be drinking just as much as always.
What tends to happen next in these instances is that family members take this personally.
Tired of being lied to, thoughts can often lead them to think that their loved one loves alcohol more than they love you.
We’re here to tell you it’s not personal. Alcohol changes brain chemistry.
The one you love is not drinking too hurt you, but because they feel they have no other choice.
They have lost the ability to control their choices, which creates an unbreakable circle of more hurt, met by more drinking.
2. You cannot control it
We see often family members do everything they can naturally to stop their loved one from drinking.
Hiding alcohol in the house, for example, will only force your loved one to drink in secret.
Members of the family during these difficult times tend to feel lonely, frustrated and exasperated.
Sometimes, it can leave you feeling like you are not enough.
But addiction is a disease and it’s not something you can control.
By trying to intervene without the proper professional care, the problem will only grow worse and usually, family member’s efforts subside and accept the problem as their new normal.
Don’t let it be. Steps to motivate a loved one to go to rehab.
If an alcoholic cannot control their drinking problem through efforts of their own, there is nothing you can do to control it for them.
See: when to intervene.
3. You cannot do it alone
Often in situations of alcohol abuse or drug dependencies that provoke your loved one into doing horrific things, it can be difficult for members of the family to sit back and act like everything is ok.
It can be deeply upsetting to witness the events that take place and have no power to do anything about it.
Even if it goes against everything you believe, the only way you can step in to turn things around is by contacting professionals who have done this many times before.
This will put an end to repeated cycles and detach you from being involved in the situation and instead allow you to be supportive.
4. The danger of covering it up
It is often the mindset of an alcoholic or depressed person to hide their problem.
Whilst they might recognise they need help, it does not mean they are ready to accept it.
This is often the reason why there is huge pressure to keep the alcoholism a secret.
For your loved one, they might be scared of someone intervening and trying to help – forcing them to take a deep look at themselves.
For the family, keeping things a secret and covering up instances with lies and excuses often come from a place of protection, guilt or shame.
The Executive Rehab Guide knows that the only approach to getting better is dealing with things calmly, openly, honestly and safely.
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5. There’s no love you can give that can cure it
Make no mistake, anxiety and depression can lead to serious alcohol dependency issues that can end up fatal.
Seeing your loved one lose all sense of their self is difficult. This disease grips them hard and turns them into a selfish person they can’t help but be.
This does not mean that you are not loved or cared about and unlike a fairytale, in these situations, love is often not enough to bring people through to the other end.
Don’t blame yourself. You are not a medical professional or a therapist – you just happen to love someone who needs therapy to get better.
Whilst it may not be your responsibility to make this happen, we understand that loved ones want to do everything they can to help.
You can help by being the support network your loved one will come to depend on.
But it is not your responsibility or duty to be the counsel required to cure the disease. You need outside help.
We can help
- Holistic therapies
- Hyperbaric oxygen therapy
- Equine therapy
- Drumming therapy
- Mindfulness and meditation
View more treatment options available here.
Call 0808 256 6163 to chat to someone today – we are available 24/7.