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Common Regrets of Being a Drinker

Drinkers Guilt – Common Regrets of Being a Drinker

Guilt and shame; two of the most powerful and destructive emotional impulses any human can face, and two of the most common symptoms of emotional distress caused by alcohol dependency.

For you to recover from alcohol dependency, you must tackle both the physical and emotional aspects of the problem with professional help. At the Executive Rehab Guide, we’re here to help you through the process and this article will offer you some advice and experience on handling regrets associated with drinking.

As you can imagine, at the Executive Rehab Guide we’ve helped a lot of people with their alcohol issues, and here are some of the most common things that alcohol-dependent people find they regret.

If you think you need help with your alcohol problems, contact us in confidence here.

I used to drink casually with my friends but now they can’t trust me to drink socially

For years, social drinking has formed a large part of British national identity, with images of jolly beer and wine drinkers enjoying each other’s company in pubs and bars.

The problem with alcohol is that chemical dependency doesn’t care for how much of a social animal you might be.

What might begin as a purely social activity can quickly become an anti-social distraction that stops you from being able to enjoy your social life and impinges on your ability to work.

The top signs that you might not be drinking socially any more are:

  • You’re drinking noticeably more rounds than your friends
  • You carry on drinking alone when you get home
  • You choose stronger spirits when others are drinking lighter beers

Take action before you regret it and take our self-assessment questionnaire to see if you might be alcohol dependent.

Drink has become my master, it makes me sick and it controls everything about my life

The overly-confident feeling of being “on top” of problem drinking is a regular regret amongst people who suffer from dependency.

There is an old adage that goes “drink can be a good servant but a lousy master”.

Because denial is a powerful part of continued dependency,  you may have become alcohol dependent but be in denial about your problem and not able to reckon with the fact you need help.

If you find that you are trying to justify buying that next bottle of spirits when you know you don’t need it, you might not be in control of your drinking anymore.

There is a tendency for those in denial to convince themselves they can quit at any time but if you can’t stop heading to the off-license when you know you have other things to get on with, get in touch with us to talk through your situation.

I lost my job and my marriage to alcohol

The concept of a ‘functioning alcoholic’ is a popular term that is often used by people who are suffering from addiction to justify their behaviour to themselves.

To be “functioning” implies that substance dependency is not impacting your ability to go about your everyday work and social life.

This is an unhelpful term and one that all too often masks the destructive and inhibiting force of alcohol dependency and delays any attempt to seek help and enter recovery.

Alcohol dependency is cumulative and, left untreated, will inexorably worsen to the point that it takes over more and more aspects of your life, cutting you off friendships, relationships, and support networks who are alienated by your behaviour and plunging you into financial hardship because of the need to feed the addiction.

The best way to counter this trend is to get ahead of the problem and begin the process of recovery as early as possible.

We’re here whenever you’re ready to discuss affordable residential rehab options, so contact the Executive Rehab Guide and break the cycle before you lose more of your life to alcohol.

I drank to soothe my anxiety and depression, but it never worked

Anxiety Symptoms

The idea of self-medicating through alcohol might seem like a decent short-term solution to problems like anxiety, stress, and low-self esteem.

After all, alcohol is a social lubricant that many people use to enjoy an active social life. Self-medication, however, is not the coping mechanism it might seem.

You will realise that alcohol use, in conjunction with mental health issues like anxiety and depression, is not a supportive combination, but a destructive cycle.

Alcohol is a depressant and overuse can compound the problems of a negative mental state.

By drinking to self-medicate, you’ll only be feeding a downward spiral of continued depressed thoughts and further alcohol abuse that worsens the problem.

You can find out more about how the ‘dual diagnoses’ of anxiety or depression and alcohol dependency can be treated here, and make a change today.

I feel like I betrayed the trust of my family and partner by lying about my drinking

For all human beings, our emotional state is often tied to our relationships with those we are closest to.

By drinking in secret, you might feel that you are betraying the trust of those who love you, such as your family or partner.

Hiding the extend of your drinking is a sure sign that you have a problem and this can place a major burden on trust in your relationships.

Unfortunately, this feeling of guilt associated with your drinking only serves to make the problem worse, rather than allow you to confront the issue head-on.

Talking to your loved ones and ‘coming clean’ will be hard but it is necessary, and you can always talk to us directly about ways to help begin that process.

Key takeaway points:

  • You may suffer from feelings of shame and guilt when social drinking tips into being anti-social
  • Alcohol can quickly become the major driving force behind your decision-making process and make you feel guilty for neglecting aspects of your life not tied to drink
  • Because of the social stigma of alcoholism, you might try to continue ‘functioning’ at work or in your social life, ignoring the real problem of chemical dependency
  • You might feel like you have betrayed or let down those who love you and this feeling of shame is stopping you from seeking the professional help you need to break the cycle of addiction
  • Falling into a cycle of addiction and shame is not a moral or personal failing, but an illness for which there are medical treatments available

Overcoming guilt and shame can lead to a healthy, happy life without alcohol

Castle Craig Hospital is located in the stunning countryside of the Scottish Borders, just 40 minutes’ drive from Edinburgh

As with other types of addiction, the best first step to take with alcohol dependency is to contact your GP to have a frank assessment of your symptoms in a non-judgemental atmosphere.  You then might contact an organisation like Alcoholics Anonymous to seek further help, though group therapy as an out-patient is not for everyone.

In terms of reaching the goal of a life without alcohol dependency, one of the best paths to confront the physical and emotional symptoms of your problem is rehab in a residential facility. Here at the Executive Rehab Guide, it’s our job to help you find the right facility to help you begin the path to recovery and overcome the guilt of being a drinker.

Contact us, in complete confidence, 24 hours a day.

Castle Craig, for example, in the beautiful Scottish Borders is one of the leading rehab clinics in the UK.

There, the medical professionals use a range of techniques to address the emotional aspects of alcohol dependency and consider it to be every bit as important as tackling the physical symptoms of alcohol’s toxicity.

Find out more about the treatments used at Castle Craig here.

Authors

  • Alison is an experienced addiction treatment specialist with over 25 years of experience. She is very knowledgeable about what help is available both privately and within the NHS.

    She is passionate about helping others to beat their demons and to live a long healthy sober life. Alison is a proud member of Alcoholics Anonymous and is happy to waive her right to anonymity to help users of this website.

    Alison is a very active and important member of our team at ERG. To talk to Alison please see livechat (bottom right).

  • Janet has worked within recovery for over 9 years and is an intrinsic part of ERG. She specialises in family therapy connecting the addict back with the family of origin.